New Moon: October 23rd Solar Eclipse

10389684_10152158728836295_4491271496050561681_nNew Moon heading our way this Thursday, as in tomorrow! Stay alert and tune in…it’s also a solar eclipse. It’s in scorpio revealer of those things hidden….

For more information I have taken the first part of a great article from www.mysticmamma.com

First from the insightful CATHY PAGANO from her Wisdom of Astrology:
“This week’s Scorpio New Moon is also a partial solar eclipse, visible in most of North America and eastern Asia.  A solar eclipse occurs when the Sun, Moon and Earth align and we see the Moon moving across the face of the Sun.  
“This alignment disrupts the usual flow of solar energy, dissolving old energy and behavior patterns so something new can manifest
“At a solar eclipse, we get to see the planting of the solar seed in the New Moon’s womb, and are therefore more conscious of what the possibilities are for this cycle.  As you can see, solar eclipses create extra powerful New Moons, marking times of major endings and new beginnings to an aspect of your life…”
“Scorpio wants us to feel what the right action is to take, and that means seriously looking into the unconscious to understand what we really feel and want out of life.  Not what we think we should want.   Not what we’ve been told to want.  But what we truly desire.  
“And that means understanding our feelings of vulnerability and our fears concerning betrayal, violence, rejection and self-worth, and the unconscious defense mechanisms which keep us from our authentic truth.”

 

To read more click here:

http://www.mysticmamma.com/solar-eclipse-new-moon-in-scorpio-october-23rd-2014/

 

Remember the new moon is all about planting seeds. You can do a short new moon ritual from wherever you are that can be used to intensify this highly magical and creative energy.

To create a new moon ritual or as I like to call it your own sacred space of intention, find a quiet moment or place or maybe visit a place in nature that you connect to. From Raelene Byrne from www.medicineforyourspirit.com . Then you can:::

  • Light a candle
 
  • Light a stick of incense
 
  •  Breathe into your heart space
  • Take a few deep slow breaths and ask your inner guidance for clarity
 
  • Begin to write down on paper what you would like to bring into your life, what would you like to ‘grow’ in your life, what you would like to accept into your life
 
  • When you finish writing, complete the document with ‘AND IT IS SO’ and sign it with the days date and your signature
 
  • Take a moment to hold to your heart for the clearest intention. You can then either burn it, watching the smoke rise to the universe taking your intentions with it, or sometimes I like to bury it in the garden to allow it to ‘grow’.

 

Have a blessed New Moon, everyone, howl and enjoy. Don’t be afraid of the dark side, it is always there as an ally and friend to make us grow. www.sensualtantrichealing.com

It’s a Guy Thing:: By David Deida

10593028_10152328745556851_6910828918493703323_nDavid Deida continues to be one of my favorite authors about male/female relationships and sex. And I could also word it this way:: David Deida continues to be one of my favorite authors about the divine masculine and feminine energies and about making Love. He basically emcompasses both. I could also say David Deida continues to be one of my favorite authors about Chics and Dudes and about getting it on. The reason I write it in these few different ways is because he is the one author that I have found able to change up his language in a few styles in order to talk about his subject from an honest perspective and a very wise perspective, I might add. This always shows me how important it is to use language to break down the ways we think about things, so that we look deeper and see ourselves clearer.

I began reading It’s a Guy Thing at a friend’s house and 3 sentences in, I just clicked on the laptop and ordered it from amazon…. it was so good.

Under the subject “Why do Men Balk at Commitment? He writes :

Men tend to argue for the possibility of love with real commitment. In response to men’s ideas about possible relationships, women often feel,, “I’m real. Don’t give me your theoretical bullshit. You’re either loving me right now or you’re not”. She wants concrete love. “Dont give me any of your heady philosophy. I’m not feeling your love right now. You’re not incarnating love right now”. She tests whether her man is really loving, or just thinking of love. “I am here. I am real. Love me”. She is here to love.

The man says, “I know you really want my attention, but can you feel love whether I am here or not? Can you be free and happy whether anything is here or not?” this is the masculine teaching of love.

The more full the masculine and feminine teachings of love are, the more close they come to being the same. At the meeting point, there is no difference between the masculine and the feminine. There is no difference between freedom and love. Since true love is all-encompassing, resisting nothing, it is totally free. And, since real freedom is fearless, with no sense of threatened self, it is completely loving. Freedom and love, masculine and feminine, are not different in their full fruition.

Yet there tends to be a concrete difference at the human level. The masculine is more able to stand outside of things and point out, “You are in a mood right now. This is just a mood. Remember love. In this moment, there is nothing preventing you. You don’t need this and that. You don’t need anything. Just remember love right now.” This is the masculine gift.

The feminine gift is like the sound of a ringing bell, a reminder of love in life. “Hey you! You are distracted in your theories and projects and TV> This is where love is expressed, with me. Right here. I m here to be loved. I m here loving you. The feminine calls the masculine into the beauty of life and the embrace of love.

We need both these gifts. Without the full masculine and feminine, we become weakened. One feminine weakness is to feel, “Unless I’m married, unless I’m in a long term intimate relationship, I can’t really experience love”. One masculine weakness is to think, “Well, if we get married I can’t be free. I don’t want to limit my life. I don’t want to be trapped.”

When we are balanced with ourselves and in our relationships, we are free to give our love without fearing dependency, loss of self or confinement. We are free and we are loving. If our relationship ends tomorrow, fine–today we give each other love. If our relationship lasts a lifetime, fine- today we give each other love.

 

This is one of the best explanations I have ever read. Instead of bashing men because they are committment phobes (I speak in a cliche, I realize they are not all committment phobes and that women can also exhibit this behavior) he points out how the impulse to shirk from that is coming from a wise understanding of love. When we can really communicate about these things with each other and understand the beauty of both sides of this committment debate, our relationships can be filled with more respect and more joy and way more trust:) I know from personal experience when you keep blaming men for your frustrations, instead of understanding better your own womanly nature and the beauty of the man nature, then life can be a struggle. Male hating for female hating really drag you down…..and are not true! Good men exist and so do good women!

If you would like to order this book feel free to click here to order of amazon…..save your dating life!

Many blessings on your dating path and feel free to see my website as well…

www.sensualtantrichealing.com

5 Elements :: 5 Senses

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I had the pleasure of studying with Devi Ward, a tantra educator who shares the lineage of Tibetan 5 element Tantra. She was doing alot of great work, integrating the 5 elements with the 5 senses, and working with powerful meditations using chakras, elements, colors and sounds. Each meditation deals with a different element to super charge your system, clean out your energy field and get you more connected to your sensual/sexual energy for greater health, and energy.

This is what I love about Tantra is the creativity of each way of sharing these arts. I love the use of color, sound and chakras to open up the body.Its like learning magic keys, which I find very exciting….

Just to give you a taste::

THE SACRED 5 ELEMENTS TANTRA SENSUAL EXPERIENCE:

Earth–Taste-Rich succulent flavors and sweet treats, such as, wine and chocolate,cut and peeled fruits, cheese, etc.

Water-Touch–Soft fabrics, pillows, silky lingerie, massage oils (organic high quality), feathers, textured fabrics to rub on your bodies.

Fire– Sight– Candles, low-dim sensuous lighting. clean and tidy environment. Beauty and ambiance.

Air-Smell — oil diffusers, incense, scented,  scented oils.

Space — bells, chimes, sounding bowls, nature sounds, the sound of the voice.

By adding these elements to your room or temple, you can begin to bring in the qualities of each element.  For earth you can have not only succulent treats, but a potted plant. For Fire you can have not only candles but some art work as well. For Air, you can do fresh air thru a humidifier, as well as essential oils and incense. For Space of course, music and also a sound machine to block out any noise from neighbors or strange house creaks as well get creative with your own voice quality…..For water….well, you can always get a nice water fountain. As well as have all the nice feelings of touch. Get creative!

To visit more about Devi Ward , visit:  www.deviward.com and to read more about my work go to www.sensualtantrichealing.com

Blessings and Joy on your sensual tantric healing paths…… Feel free to make comments or ask questions.

 

 

Relearning Touch :: How to Heal After Past Sexual Trauma

296233_251405934905342_93453528_nA large part of my work is helping people who have experienced sexual abuse. This is a very intense thing to have gone thru and not something that you can really rush thru. Sometimes, it manifests as a sexual issue and then upon addressing the sexual issue the abuse comes up to the surface. Over and over, what I have come to experience in my practice is that sexual abuse is something that is not often talked about and very often swept under the carpet. It never ceases to amaze me how often I hear of sexual abuse, and the person tells me they have never seen a therapist for it. If you have had sexual abuse, there are trained people, who are very knowledgable about this subject. Seek them out. It is much more common than you would guess and going for your healing, is an empowering and liberating choice for your life on all levels.

I am not a trained therapist in these issues, but I have trained in various sexual healing techniques, particularly thru tantra. I am now reading a very wonderful book about sexual abuse and am constantly getting further education about it. One of the essential things I have found, is that a person needs to re learn how to be in their body and feel safe. One of the books I am reading;; “The Sexual Healing Journey” by Wendy Maltz talks about re-learning touch and how important it is to re-introduce yourself to touch. Not just sexual touch…just plain touch.

She writes::

” If survivors had no choice about who touched them sexually, or when or how or where, they may automatically assume that all touch leads to sex. Survivors may avoid touch that is sensuous and intimate but outside the sexual context: a friend’s hug, a coworker’s handshake, a nurse’s massage. A woman who had been abused by her mother, father, and brother described the dilemma: ” ‘I grew up without nurturing touch and with lots of inappropriate sexual touching. Now I am confused about touch. I’m afraid to trust someone to touch me and unsure that my touch will be received with pleasure if I touch someone else.'”

Survivors can’t erase the past. They were sexually abused and may never had a chance to learn to enjoy being touched. But it’s not too late to begin learning to enjoy touch now. It is possible to build a new mental file, a place to tuck away fresh, enjoyable memories, about touch, like saving snapshots from a wonderful trip. By creating new experiences, survivors can take off in directions they never dreamed they could travel…..

To enhance sexual healing, survivors can now go back and rebuild a healthy continuum of touch experiences. The key to remember is that sexual pleasuring comes after-and not until-you have learned to feel safe and comfortable with nonsexual touch…..

Survivors need to feel well-practiced in their ability to relax, stay present, and guide the touch activity before they can enjoy the unique pleasures inherent in sexual touch.

 

She goes on to describe some very good touch exercises, that are simple and playful, non-sexual. If you would like to read more form her book….click below and order thru amazon, it is one of the most complete and thorough books I have ever read….

 

Blessings on your path and way. May you have the courage to heal and transmute all that is unfinished inside of you.

www.sensualtantrichealing.com

Lunar Eclipse-October 8, 2014

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Its that time again…Full Moon time….read more about it from Mystic Mamma…Enjoy!
“TOTAL LUNAR ECLIPSE IN ARIES ◉ on October 8th 2014. This Eclipse is the second of the Tetrad of Eclipses and will be visible all over North and South America, the Pacific, Australia, New Zealand and East Asia.
Highly recommend you take time to witness this awe-inspiring moment when the bright Full Moon is covered by the Earth’s shadow and turns into a beautiful blood red Moon. 
No two Eclipses are the same as there are always different energies at play. With a Grand Fire Trine, and the Pluto/Uranus square being activated, this one will surely spark some *transformational* energies.  So let’s stay grounded, with our feet deeply rooted into Mother Earth, centered in our hearts and  open to what these creative and fiery energies will bring forth.  
Here are the MYSTIC MAMMA Astral Insights from our beloved featured astrologers. To begin, the wise ROBERT WILKINSON from Aquarius Papers sheds wisdom on Eclipses. He says:
“There is a lot of fear and trepidation connected to Eclipses…No Astrological event need be ‘bad,’ or have ‘evil’ effects, regardless of whether we’re using Vedic, Chinese, Western, or any other approach to defining ‘All-That-Is’ within a precise system of space-time factors…”

To read more please click below!

 

http://www.mysticmamma.com/total-lunar-eclipse-in-aries-october-8th-2014/

A New Book I Love:: Tantric Orgasm for Women by Diana Richardson

10599376_10152808101891454_2601466880874944407_nAs always, I am reading, reading, reading and constantly learning more about Tantra, sexual healing and all things men and women. A few years ago I was traveling in Greece when I met this fascinating, electric woman who carried herself with such a presence I admired her from afar for awhile. Then thru the course of the week (we were in a big group of people staying at the same lodge) I began to have more opportunity to speak with her and she shared that she was a Tantra teacher! Yay,,,,plus one for my intuitive feeling and knowing. I immediately wanted to know more and she shared with me a few titles of her books but that her book for women wasn’t out yet.

Well fast forward a few years and its out now, and I am reading it. I am so blown away with how much she writes from her heart and with the spirit of meditation in sex. The other book she and her partner , Michael Richardson,,wrote together is Tantric Sex for Men:: Making Love a Meditation. Also excellent but I have only flipped thru as I am still reading the book for women. Stay tuned.

Just to give you a taste….

She writes ” When a woman knows it is possible to use her sexual energy rightfully, allowing it to circulate throughout the body orgasmically, her sense of self changes and she WANTS to make love. Sex becomes less to do with the other or with getting something and becomes more a way of valuing and loving oneself, of being with oneself. With insight into her body mechanisms she is able to direct her sexual energy and so be more in command of her life. The process of the body getting older and perhaps less attractive becomes of no real concern, in the sense that she knows how to attract the male principle when a man is in her presence, how to draw and drink from him, through understanding the deeper layers of sexual energy. It has nothing to with how she looks or how old she is. She bypasses the superficiality of sex and steps directly in to the female element, which is passive, relaxed, receptive, sweet, serene, open. Such an ambiance in itself stimulates man to respond to woman in a way quite different from how he usually responds.

So true. I couldn’t agree more. The more often I nourish myself, and spend time looking inward and getting to know my soul, and clearing my belief system,  the more often I find men noticing me. So many time you leave the house without make up in gym clothes etc, but you are alive and feeling that feminine juice and suddenly you have that guy bumbling all over himself to open your doors or talk to you. The times I spend all this effort to dress up, look a certain way etc but have not paid attention to my insides, to my heart and soul….I can feel it. There is less spark. Men don’t pay attention as much. Now when I have done my tantric practice, things go thru the roof! Whether dressed up or not:)

” The fragrance of a woman settled in her essence exerts an attractive force on  man that alters the whole nature of the sexual act–it is a dimensional shift” Diana Richardson

So here is to really making love a meditation and claiming the sacred energy of sex and womanhood….

If you would like to read more click below to order your copy….

And to head to my website, visit www.sensualtantrichealing.com

Blessings and All Good Things….

The Sexual Healing Journey

Recently I have been reading a great book called The Sexual Healing Journey by Wendy Maltz. Recently, and also in the past, I have gotten these waves of people reaching out to me with the desire to clear and cleanse alot of sexual abuse or inability to really enjoy themselves sexually. I am not a trained therapist but I do have a BA in psychology so I do have a bit of background in traditional therapy. But her book is really rocking my world. As I am continuing to understand the depth of how sexual abuse can affect a person’s life I am simply humbled. How often this kinds of abuse gets pushed under the rug or rarely if ever talked about.  They say 1 in 3 women will experience some sort of sexual abuse in their lifetime. And 1 in 6 men!

What I keep reading over and over is how the memory of past abuse gets triggered and the different ways it can manifest in life. From an addictiveness to sex to simply avoiding it all together. To understand how the body/mind holds trauma and tends to replay it until the trauma is released is revealing such a deeper appreciation for how our psyche and our physical systems help us heal.

BE PRESENT

The most important part of the healing journey begins with learning to be present with whatever comes up for you around being sexual. A big part of each stage of healing requires an ability to slow down, get present and acknowledge whatever behaviors or feelings you find yourself in. This ability to get present sounds very simple, almost too easy, but the truth is, getting present in the midst of our patterns of relating to ourselves and others requires practice. It also requires the understanding about how powerful it is to GET present. In presence we take a step back and are able to witness our inner feelings and outside behaviors. It allows us to have the space to see where a choice is possible to make a change and begin to give ourselves what we really need to heal. I have found that getting present and taking a BREATH can be some of the most powerful and life changing work I have ever done to heal. It sounds so simple and it is. And it is the foundation for all the rest of the healing practices we can do.

Sometimes we may not be aware that we have been the victims of sexual abuse or perhaps it is a buried memory. Some behaviors that Wendy Maltz notes that can result from sexual abuse are:

“-Avoiding or withdrawing from sex.

-Faking sexual interest

-Allowing sex to be forced.

-Combining sex and emotional or physical abuse.

-Habitually using pornography.

-Engaging in medically risky sex.

-Having anonymous sex.

-Engaging in secretive sex which generates feeings of  shame.

-Have sex with near strangers.

-Engaging in prostitution.

-Making sexually degrading jokes.

-Having abusive sexual fantasies.

-Have sex in relationships that lack intimacy.

-Having sex under dishonest circumstances.

-Visiting topless bars, strip shows, and or adult book stores.

And these are only but a few she mentions….and certainly you can engage in these behaviors and NOT have been abused.

She writes: ” If you find your present behaviors described in this checklist, you may be unconsciously replaying or mirroring sexual abuse. Sometimes referred to as a repetition compulsion, this instant replay can be a survivor’s unconcsious way of tyring to understand what happened and to resolve inner emotional stress by acting out the abuse again and again. Staging replays may be a way of desentisizing ourselves to the shame, disgust, or pain we felt in the abuse. Replays may also be an effort to gain some mastery and control over even our worst experiences.”-Wendy Maltz

I think its important to really learn to take that step back and get present without judgement, on any of our sexual behaviors and be extremely honest with ourselves with what behaviors really serve us in the long run and what we truly want to experience in our sexual lives. Most people, I do think, want to experience a loving, erotic and connected experience with a committed partner. And by committed I do mean a committment that works for you both, not necessarily monogamy or marriage.

Things to think about….I will discuss more from this book as I am finding the content so rich….

If you want to order yourself here is the link:

All blessings on your path to greater sexual wholeness and healing….

www.sensualtantrichealing.com