We’re still swimming in the dreamy waters of Pisces, so flip over onto your back and let the moonlight bathe and sooth you, body and soul. That’s when Spirit’s voice comes clear.
“Perhaps you’ve been lost in the dark watery depths amidst strangely glowing nightmare creatures or swimming fast and free with a pod of dolphins or breaching with a family of whales. Perhaps you’ve gotten stuck in stagnate seas of weeds and grass or finally been tumbled to distant shores.
“If you’ve flowed with Pisces’ watery energies, you might feel like your life is dissolving into a new unity of spirit; if you’ve struggled against the tides you might find yourself lost at sea. But wherever you find yourself on Full Moon night, take this magical moonlight into your heart. Listen to and look at what’s there.
“The Virgo Full Moon tells us, ‘You belong to yourself. As much as you are part of a whole, you are also a unique drop in the ocean of consciousness. What do you want to do with your drop? What does your drop want to do with you?’
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And as always enjoy everything….
What a wonderful world it is when you come to a house of a friend and she ends up having fabulous books that you had on your book list. I am back on the horse so to speak with this blog….Thanks to ALL who are reading it and my apologies as I drop off the face of the earth at times. I simply need to unplug and dive into deep inner processes within myself and beyond myself to balance my system…
But now I am “above” ground and ready to contribute sensual, tantric, healing posts that inspire, enliven, educate, and hopefully add some spice and energy to your worlds. And as always I hope to bring you into a deeper inquiry investigating the nature of “reality” and what it is that TRULY feeds your soul. And how sensuality and sex are so profoundly interwoven into all of this, regardless if your having it or not.
I’m reading Ecstasy is Necessary by Barbra Carrellas and she invites us (the readers) to get in touch with our Authentic Sexual Self. So that we can really discover how we operate in terms of relationship, sexual style, and erotic appetite. Most of what we have learned is pretty cookie cutter as if sex was a one size fits all experience. We are also so bombarded by guilt and shame in this country around anything related to pleasure, and I don’t just mean sexual pleasure, I mean any kind of sensual pleasure-relaxing, getting a massage, enjoying a good meal, taking a walk for no reason. Especially here in NYC where so many of us are in work overdrive, to stay competitive, on our edge and keeping up. I was astounded by the answers she received when she began to ask people “Why do you do sex?””What does it give you?” “Whats the delight?” and “Whats the big pay off?” She says “the truth is we don’t all do sex for the same reasons”.
Here are the some of the answers she came up with:: (There were many more but I chose the ones that really stood out for me)
-To Connect /communicate with another person.
-To turn my brain off.
-To lighten up.
-To feel Wanted and Needed.
-To explore different sides of my personality.
-To Open My Heart
-To experience Altered States
-It Makes Me Feel Grounded
-Its the most authentic time I have with myself
-It’s one of the only ways I enjoy being present in my body.
Doesn’t this open up so much more your view of the human being? So often I feel like subtly we look at sexual appetite as some lecherous, needy experience, so conditioned we are to see men as dogs and women as whores. Of course our view is not so extreme but in the sub-conscious if we are really honest with our judgement I am sure we can find those extreme belief systems inside of us. I credit this mostly to religion and the media. But when we strip away our superficial conscious mind and begin to question what really motivates us to seek sex, its amazing what we might find. Uncovering our authentic needs and desires, helps us to get CLEAR, about what we are really seeking, have more compassion for ourselves and our partners. It also helps us to see that the people we are in partnership with may have a totally different reason why they enjoy sex and by understanding what really makes them tick, we can create more nourishing sexual exchanges.
She writes” The longer I talked to people about the true value sex had in their lives, the more I could see a through line. The majority of people reported that they liked sex because of some form of connection. What differed was what they preferred to be in connection with. Some people wanted to be in connection with another person. Others wanted connection with God/Goddess/All That Is. Some wanted connection with an aspect of themselves, while others wanted a feeling of purpose, or aliveness, or love, or inner peace. I personally subscribe to the theory that all human desire for connection is a desire for connection with the divine, for connection with God/Goddess/Universe/All That Is. Sex and sexual energy allow us a direct physical experience of the divine within ourselves and with others–a direct connection to the center of everything.”
I love her. Thank you Barbra. She speaks to my soul about this path of Sensual Tantric Healing….to embrace this incredible energy of our sexuality as being divine, and NECESSARY for us to heal as whole human beings.
And check out my site as I begin to add some new offerings, pictures and more….Blessings as always on your healing path, may love guide your way home.
I am currently taking an online tantra training with Devi Ward, learning some basics of the Tibetan 5 element tantric approach. Part of my “homework” is to do a pleasure ritual for myself, light the candles, play the music, explore the pussy. Not just any ole pussy. But my own pussy. And practice the art of self pleasure that Devi has shared with me, based on breathing, sound, and deeply investigating what it means to open all the parts of my own delicious vagina on my own through conscious touch. And I have to admit…I am struggling with this. I keep putting my homework off.
Now don’t think I am some prude or something, for sure I am NOT, but for all the ways I can hold space for other women to unfold, and absolutely know in my gut this work is needed for the healing of our planet on so many levels, (it would take another article to go into), I still have to face my own resistance to pleasure. I still have to face my own habit of putting my own pleasure on the back burner in favor of what I am comfortable with:: Helping others experience, and sharing the education….keeping the focus off myself. And yet, without making the time for myself and my own pleasure what kind of help can I really provide…? (more on that again, in another post).
So I went to Devi’s blog looking for inspiration when I realized how resistant I was to giving myself this time…and found this timeless article by Ms. Ward, that reminded me why this work is so important….We truly have been conditioned to think of the word pleasure in a way that is counter to what it really is…..we have built up resistances that lodge in our sub-conscious so tightly we can be hardly aware that its there! Here I am an advocate for sensual healing and health and I still come up against resistance…Its normal or rather I should say it is the norm. We have not been gifted this kind of sensual education or awareness from our society, it simply hasn’t been there even as a language, we wouldn’t of even known how to ask the questions for most of us. Many of the things I learned in school and from my friends and family about sex had nothing to do with the reality of sex once I arrived at being sexual active. I was given tampons in junior high, menstral blood was considered gross and all I knew about sex is that if any of the nasty white stuff that came out of the guys penis got inside me, I would become an after school special movie of the week. Good girls didn’t like sex and bad girls definitely got alot of attention. To touch yourself or even talk about it was hidden or giggled about. Boys doing it was “gross”. And yet. There were a whole host of experiences I could never explain, that made me KNOW deep down…..there was something way deeper to this whole sex thing, and for sure, I was going to find out.
Fast forward a few years and here I am. Fascinated by sex, humbled by my work, floored by what people share with me about their experiences. I constantly have to tell people this work goes way beyond a desire for sexual gratification and into areas so tender and true to the soul, one day a book (I pray) hopes to emerge that opens our eyes to what sexuality can really offer us as a humanity, when we bring our hearts and education to it. And still, despite the other tantra trainings I have done, the communities of open minded people I have been blessed with, and my own personal exploration in all sorts of sexual worlds both privately and with friends, still. The self pleasure homework gets put on the back burner….This is not to beat myself up, this is truly to say:: I now realize how much this work is needed….
For more from Devi Ward:
“From Chapter 2. of “Shake Your Soul-Song! A Woman’s Guide To Self-Empowerment Through The Art Of Self-Pleasure”
We are born into this world of sensory experience~ sight, sound, taste, touch, and smell.
Each of our 5 senses also relates to the 5 elements ~fire, space, earth, water, and air ~ which make up our relative or “experiential” environment.
As children we delight in our sensual experience.
We want to taste it, touch it, feel it, understand it, know it.”…..
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For her website dedicated to the sensual empowerment of women, click here:
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Blessings to all Ladies Willing to Take That Leap Into the Unknown and Risk What Happens When You Choose to Reclaim Your Sensual Soul. Remember that Love is the best medicine.
Happy New Moon everyone! I am a huge fan of Mystic Mamma…its a website that always gives the BEST moon offerings and today is a new moon and they have written beautifully about it….So read a bit here and then click on the link to their site to read more. From MYSTIC MAMMA::
“We enter the NEW MOON in Sagittarius on December 2nd 2013. After some powerful shifts and revelations from accessing our watery depths in Scorpio, we are ready to channel our passions and rise with the Sagittarius fires of transformation and rebirth. This last NEW MOON of 2013 is a opportunity to align with our truth and set our intentions to move forward with new skins as we face the future we want to create and the embodied reality we will bring forth.
Here is part one of the MYSTIC MAMMA Astral Insights from the most tuned-in readers of the stars…
To read more from this post and about the New Moon that is today! click on this link::
Blessings Everyone…may you find the new moon a great time to start anew and be inspired….plant your new seeds….
A friend recently told me “tantra is a path of gratitude”. I had never looked at like that before. Not that I would disagree with this statement but I had never phrased it that way. It made me pause and nod my head while I took it in and digested that remark.
I have chosen to adopt this phrase. Especially today on the day of thanks and giving. Been a day of solitude for me, having been invited a few places, but finding that I am enjoying the quiet of NYC and the alone time in a quiet apartment with a quiet cat. Today I am grateful for quiet and solitude, on a day when most people are probably busy and celebrating. I will attend desert at a friend’s house so as not to miss out on the energy of celebration and togetherness, but for right now, solitude is aweome.
Tantra IS a path of gratitude. Not just today. But every day. So easily in this modern-day world that stresses all the things we need to have in order to be happy, and uses the power of the emotional hook to sell product after product (just watch tv for 5 minutes after yoga class and you will be amazed at how much clearer you see the advertising worlds manipulation of our heart-strings to sell their stuff) we often can get tricked into thinking and feeling as if what we have is not enough. Let me rephrase. I get tricked into thinking this way and then acting from a place of scarcity and lack.…running around trying to get the next thing or make something happen.
Of course we want to create wonderful lives and that does often include things in the practical 3rd dimension like healthy food, technology, beautiful clothes and delicious entertainment. For sure we should enjoy living in the world and participating in it. But when it becomes an energy of constantly needing more, needing better, a sense of striving that never gets satiated, we know we are missing the true joy inherent in life. To run after things that just lead to another need and more running, keeps us in a cycle of unfulfilled desires. Which just creates more desire. It an endless cycle that really leads nowhere except to the realization of our futile attempts.
Today after I went to the gym I sat on the porch and I just watched the sky. The steam coming up from the building across from me, somebody probably cooking something wonderful, the sounds of children and families coming thru the windows around the Manhattan neighborhood. The sun was bright and all I had to do was watch how the steam billowed up to the sky. And it was enough. There was contentment in a way that I have not been affording myself, as I have been too caught up to really sit tight and just be. I have been too busy running around trying to make life happen. Today it was a holiday and this gave me permission I wish I would remember to afford myself more often. Because, there was joy in that steam and peace in my sitting. The silent, sweet soft cat by my side reminding me to slow down and let life in. What a gift.
In that moment a great gratitude extended thru my bones and soul with a certainty. I am so grateful for knowing that silent space exists and is there for me whenever I choose to drop my ideas of how life should look, or what I think I need, or what I think I have to do to get there. Wherever “there” is. It was a tantric moment. The moment I am attempting to create for my clients. The moment that all prayer/practice/breath/yoga/massage stroke is attempting to deliver people to. Unity. And in that unity a natural gratitude extends so that one can only say thank you. Because it’s just awesome. And feels so right. Thank you life for being this awesome for no reason. Thank you for opening to me.
So today, I would suggest to you to take some time to just sit silently, amongst the food and people and festivities, and just feel your self in the presence of life. Offer yourself to this gratitude, offer yourself and your actions and your time and money to this place of unity. This is tantra. When everything comes together into one cosmic love affair. Just you, the porch and the steam. Just you, the couch and the smells from the oven. Just you and some Uncle you have nothing to say to. Just you and your kid nephew throwing popcorn everywhere. Just you and your girlfriend whose talking about something you have no interest in. Just you and the night sky. Just you and the grocery clerk 5 minutes before the store closes for that last onion you probably won’t need but just maybe. Just pause there.
Today I am grateful to remember that this unity is happening all the time, that this inner peace is but a prayer away, that even when it feels like “it leaves” it is only a moment away from returning, reinventing itself, re configuring how it chooses to express itself. Today I am grateful for the beings in my life, that continue to challenge me to remember this, for the opportunity to even touch this, to free myself from the compulsive need to think I can control anything, or that I have somewhere I have to get to. Today I am grateful for that steam and that crisp afternoon on a Manhattan porch with nowhere to go and nothing to do but let it in, let it out, and make my way over to the place where the good people live, dancing and eating turkey and telling stories that go all night. I am grateful to have both.
Thank you thank you thank you.
This is Tantra….
I just got off the phone with a prospective client. He wanted to know if my sessions included “a bunch of breathing”. He didn’t want that, he said. It was annoying to constantly be told to breathe. He wasn’t a breather.
I smiled silently on the other end. Suppressing a chuckle. He wasn’t a breather? Really? :)
He also said he wanted to really let go of stress and learn to expand his energy and grow his capacity for pleasure. He spent a lot of time in an office and felt he was in his head too much. He wanted out of the daily grind, to escape into an alternate world.
These desires are quite common and I hear them alot from people interested in working with me. And I have to tell them:: The only way out of the head and into the body is thru the breath. Because the breath is what connects us, anchors us to our physical reality. It’s literally the thing that keeps us here, alive, as human beings. Without it….we stop living.
Something happens when we consciously breathe, and when we open up deeper to breath. When we allow oxygen and life force in. We become more ALIVE. We feel more. We create space in our bodies where there was previous tension and tightness, we literally live longer, deeper, fuller lives. In order to feel the capacity of your entire being, you must breathe. Usually we don’t even realize how little and shallow we are breathing until somebody puts our attention on it. “Breathe” they say. Yes, I am, I am alive, right? Well yes and no. You will breathe, but it’s not that simple.
The breath can act as a cleanser to your energy systems. Helping to remove literal toxins and also energetic toxins that accumulate in our etheric fields. The breath also helps us open up the subconscious states that help us merge into trance states, to relax, to let go of the usual mental to do lists and over analyzing. That sublime place we are looking for inside of ourselves, really only happens if we can let go of the more superficial layer that we usually operate from in our daily life. When we breathe, we start to submerge into a deeper reality, a reality that is in our cells, in our muscles, our bones, our heart and in sensation and then beyond. By breathing, particularly at the points we don’t want to, we begin to open the stuck places. The frozen places and the protected places.
And that’s exactly what we want to do if we truly want to heal. If we truly want to open up to all that we can experience as human beings on every level: Soul. Sex. Sensual. Emotional. Heart. Body. Each level needs the breath to make it come alive, to allow whatever needs to be cleansed and released it’s time to move. The breath is movement in our physical bodies and in our energetic bodies, it has intelligence, and healing energy in it. To trust it is to trust the divine. It also helps us relax into sensation, so that sensation can expand and reveal its deeper messages. Without the breath there is just a superficial experience of sensation. You might bliss out from the touch, but you won’t necessarily reach down deep into embodying your deepest pleasure. You will just stay on the surface and never really sink in.
For people who really don’t like to breathe, I say:: breathe deep here and now with whatever you are feeling and then forget it after some time. Just breathe how you normally do and just FEEL the effects of breathing deeply. Most people say wow. Because that is just how disconnected we can become in our lives. Living in our heads, thru the computer, the iPhone, the TV, that keeps us in a fantasy illusion of reality, we become so disconnected we don’t even realize. Suddenly you take some breaths, you feel some touch and boom! A whole new reality opens up, you become alive again, human, visceral, embodied. Here and Now. Where all the bliss is hanging out. To really FEEL our lives, we must breathe.
As I go along, having taken yoga, tantra and breath work trainings, I am still on the search for different ways to breathe. Still uncovering the power of this amazing work and its effect on our ability to connect to our sensuality and our feelings and to help cleanse and heal spaces in us that need love and care. Even right now, I notice, as I type, my head immersed in the computer screen, I am not really breathing. So I take a breath. It’s like an ocean of bliss rolls thru and I find the next word….I feel my belly expand, my heart open and lighter feeling when I exhale, making me realize even just sitting and typing, you can be carrying and hanging on to stress…..
So breathe my friends. And welcome the opportunity to have someone reminding you. The journey thru breath is a glorious one and its free to each one of us that has two lungs and a mouth.
Blessings and breath