Slowing Down:: Acknowledging Your Womb Wisdom:: 8 Delicious Ways to Be A Pussy

13162_840201576032683_9145546287106111740_nHave you heard that expression, “a woman’s work is never done”, well, you have because it’s true.  Women have more demands on them than any living creature I have ever known and are the most adept at juggling family life, career, health, hobbies, girlfriends, the emotional landscape of being woman, the societal demands on how we should look, and the pressures from our peers to be “Goddesses”. I use this term loosely, not because I don’t respect it as a word, nor because I don’t believe in the holy power of the goddess, She is definitely a living being. Starting with the ground we walk and the air we breathe. But I for one, am exhausted at how much I find myself running to keep up with everyone’s definition of what Goddess means, and what demands I have placed on myself to achieve this idea of perfection. To prove I am one.

When I got hit with the Flu for 3 days, something I never get, I just am not one of those people, I had to stop and pause for a second….And ask myself…why was I running myself so hard? What was I trying to prove with all the things I thought I was “doing”. And at the core of it was this ancient fear for the male “boss” I had projected my man wounds on and was afraid to voice myself too, afraid of being called a “Pussy”. Who wants to be a “pussy”? Wait, except, I loved pussies, so what was I so afraid of? I was all about Pussies….maybe I should just surrender and be a “pussy”…… and give it the correct definition.

So here it is…..(drum roll)

8 TIPS TO PROVE YOUR PUSSY POWER

1. You don’t carry heavy shit. Look, you can, it’s not that you won’t but with all the things you are doing all day long, taking care of everyone, looking beautiful, finding god, making food, and organizing business meetings, you really don’t want to spend time carrying things that are 1/3 the weight for these other beings called Men. Why should you carry the heavy stuff? He’s better at it. Find a He and Ask. Usually, the great thing is, if you ask nice, they really like to flex their muscles.

2. You don’t PUSH…..You don’t PULL……you simply RECEIVE…..Read that once more. Out Loud. To everyone in sight. This is the new dawn of grace. Sometimes we are great at these words and lousy at the practice. We receive by tuning in and vibrating our goddess charms all thru us and shower them on life in all its manifestations…..This is called Magic. Magic is the stuff of dreams. Dreams are stuff of the night. The night has the moon. The moon is Her. You are Her. Enough said.

3. Your Womb Feeling is Your Gut Feeling, is Your Saving Grace…..: That means TUNE IN. All the time. Without this you will not hear the guidance that is flowing thru you like water, all the day and all the night. Give up trying to understand it. Just listen to it. Feel it. It’s often poetic, mostly wise and always very simple. It lives in your womb. Yes where babies are made and no you don’t need to have had a baby to sense it. It’s Womb Wisdom. Just go stare at that picture of that ex-boyfriend or girlfriend you left, that you knew was not good for you. Notice the feeling in your belly. That’s your womb talking to you. Loud and clear…You know when you know. We all have been there…

4. YES, Even Today Is a Good Day to Dress Up. Pretty Does Matter…..Because it matters to you…because it matters when and where and how you dress to please yourself. If you feel like dressing up or putting on lipstick or glitter or earrings or some strange feather eye mask, or your favorite sneakers you are allowed, because. You get to do what you want, because it feels good, because you know that feeling good, will help others have permission to feel good too. Because you just like it. Because its pretty.

5. WHEN TIRED….You Rest. This is a very, very  important one…when you are tired, that means rest. That means, you must tell others you are resting, that means you must take that rest to be mind/body/spirit rest. That means, you take your mind out of figuring out how it is all going to work out and you simply hand it over to the Goddess, and say “I am resting, can you hold this?”. And She Will. So. Just Do it. Rest.

6. JUICE YOURSELF:: This means two things;; drink fresh juice…like from vegetables. This is way way helpful. It makes your skin glow, your energy rise, it makes you happy. Second it means:: Do something fun. Take a dance class, see a girlfriend, paint your nails, go see good art, ride a bike, play with kids, watch the sunset, walk barefoot thru the sand, LAUGH, tell an erotic story, do something JUICY….related to fun, inspiration, creativity, sensuality…whatever it is that gets you saying YES to being alive. Go and do it. You can also do that too just make sure you also receive some pleasure and not just give.

7. You Help. You help others, when it also feels good for you. You don’t help when you are half falling over. You help when you truly have an overflowing cup and it is a pleasure to help. You help out of gratitude, out of joy, out of service to a larger universe. You help out of love. Not out of hoping to get some love, or helping with an agenda of the other person now helping you next, or with the idea that you “should” help. You help because it is intensely pleasurable. You help because it makes you happy. When someone needs help and you don’t have it to give, you look around for that person who does have it to give and you delegate. If it’s just you and you have 3 screaming kids and no man or woman around, you put a movie on, you call a friend, you do what you can to find the peace so that you also receive help. You help as much as you ask for help. Muy importante.

8. You like cats. Just kidding. But not really. Because if you want to truly be a pussy, just watch a cat. She/He will show you everything you need to know about perfecting the Art. Lie around, look deeply at life, move fast, leap, purr, scratch when you don’t like something, nuzzle in when you do, be gorgeous. It’s easy. And in only 8 steps…..Purrrr…..

Love to All the Women Out There Who Do More Than The World Will Ever Recognize.

I Recognize You and So Does She.

Love and Gratitude.

www.sensualtantrichealing.com

 

Full Moon Nov 6, 2014….Taurus….ahhh:)

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Full Moon in Taurus yayyyy!!!

 

Here is a qoute about what she represents this day….::::

 

“FULL MOON in Taurus is here on November 6 2014! Time to connect with the nurturing and supportive energy of Mother Earth and remember the peace that comes when we simply take a moment to breathe deeply and enter the stillness. Been a lot of energy churning in the cosmos, the easiest and simplest thing we can do to regain our balance is come back to our breath. Slow deep breaths open the way…so remember to breathe.
Here are the MYSTIC MAMMA Astral Insights from the our featured astrologers bringing their illuminating wisdom…
First from the insightful PAT LILES from The Power Path.com:
“A time of palpable Feminine Power – meaning of the Earth, the body, the sensual, that which holds beauty and power with grace. All four elements, earth, air, fire and water have a sign that represents the holding and consolidation of energy-POWER. They are the fixed signs. For earth it is Taurus; for water, it is Scorpio. Earth and water are the feminine elements…”
“Taurus combines its power with the practicality of earth meaning focus is on our security, what we value, our resources, possessions, and what we can experience with our earthly senses (mmm, tastes good, feels good, smells good, sounds good…), and Taurus reflects how we experience our self-worth.”
“Ruled by feminine Venus, she brings to Taurus the sensuous, the beautiful, and the ability to magnetize what she desires to her. The material world reflects how Taurus views their power and strength and safety in the world…”

 

To read more click below! And do something special for this one!

http://www.mysticmamma.com/full-moon-in-taurus-november-6-2014/

November:: Into the Unknown….

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Mystic Mamma does me so good….enjoy the reading of their report about November….:: I can certainly feel the shaking of the unknown…..
Here is the Astrology Report for November 2014 from the always deep and insightful Sarah Varcas from Astro.Awakenings.uk:
“My report for October highlighted the need for patience… all efforts made to patiently co-exist with difficult feelings, challenging circumstances and those difficult to bear aspects of ourselves and others, begin to pay-off in November as Pluto aligns with Uranus and Chiron for a relationship which continues until February 2015.
“This alignment points a way through challenges and out the other side. It invites us to actively engage with any areas of struggle in our lives now – the time of patient waiting is over – and to do so with a wholehearted commitment to living the questions, challenges and conflicts which confront us.
“The more willing we are to do this the more we will recognize just how much we set ourselves up for difficulties simply by failing to recognize the truth when we see it, be it the truth about ourselves, other people, or the very nature of life itself.
Truth is a major theme this month. Whilst for those on a journey of awakening the discernment of truth is always prevalent, the nature of truth is changing now and there are fresh truths & perspectives to be gleaned.
“If you feel your spiritual practice is letting you down, or you’re just not inspired like you once were, if you’re having to face recurring problems in your life, aspects of yourself, which you thought were long gone and are wondering whether you’ve really changed at all, this month holds promise of fresh perspectives and new opportunities to step back into the flow of life with renewed faith and focus.
“Pluto, Chiron and Uranus are clearing the path ahead to support those who choose to walk it. It won’t all be sprouting roses, and some of it’s up hill, but with these three formidable companions we have great strength and wisdom at our side.
“Which isn’t to say we can just chuck patience out of the window though! We still need it, towards ourselves and other people. And perhaps most importantly, towards the evolutionary process of conscious awakening occurring on this planet, to which each one of us contributes every minute of every day.
“We may find ourselves, this month, in the midst of very familiar circumstances, experiencing very familiar responses, except this time we can readily choose a new way to act rather than repeat old habits and patterns which have gotten us nowhere fast.
“The deepest changes at this time are not those which can be measured in physical and material terms but in terms of attitude and understanding. When we can see a familiar situation through completely new eyes, perceiving heretofore hidden dynamics and truths, we are deep within the process of transformation, no matter how things look from the outside.
“Shifts in circumstance are the icing on the cake, but it is the inner changes which truly matter: new truths perceived, old perceptions released, a willingness to follow one’s heart no matter how misaligned it seems with everyone around you! These are the shifts highlighted for the coming month – an internal re-ordering which will bear external fruit in due course (hence the need for patience!).

 

TO read more click here::

http://www.mysticmamma.com/inside-out-change-november-2014-astrology-report-by-sarah-varcas/

New Moon: October 23rd Solar Eclipse

10389684_10152158728836295_4491271496050561681_nNew Moon heading our way this Thursday, as in tomorrow! Stay alert and tune in…it’s also a solar eclipse. It’s in scorpio revealer of those things hidden….

For more information I have taken the first part of a great article from www.mysticmamma.com

First from the insightful CATHY PAGANO from her Wisdom of Astrology:
“This week’s Scorpio New Moon is also a partial solar eclipse, visible in most of North America and eastern Asia.  A solar eclipse occurs when the Sun, Moon and Earth align and we see the Moon moving across the face of the Sun.  
“This alignment disrupts the usual flow of solar energy, dissolving old energy and behavior patterns so something new can manifest
“At a solar eclipse, we get to see the planting of the solar seed in the New Moon’s womb, and are therefore more conscious of what the possibilities are for this cycle.  As you can see, solar eclipses create extra powerful New Moons, marking times of major endings and new beginnings to an aspect of your life…”
“Scorpio wants us to feel what the right action is to take, and that means seriously looking into the unconscious to understand what we really feel and want out of life.  Not what we think we should want.   Not what we’ve been told to want.  But what we truly desire.  
“And that means understanding our feelings of vulnerability and our fears concerning betrayal, violence, rejection and self-worth, and the unconscious defense mechanisms which keep us from our authentic truth.”

 

To read more click here:

http://www.mysticmamma.com/solar-eclipse-new-moon-in-scorpio-october-23rd-2014/

 

Remember the new moon is all about planting seeds. You can do a short new moon ritual from wherever you are that can be used to intensify this highly magical and creative energy.

To create a new moon ritual or as I like to call it your own sacred space of intention, find a quiet moment or place or maybe visit a place in nature that you connect to. From Raelene Byrne from www.medicineforyourspirit.com . Then you can:::

  • Light a candle
 
  • Light a stick of incense
 
  •  Breathe into your heart space
  • Take a few deep slow breaths and ask your inner guidance for clarity
 
  • Begin to write down on paper what you would like to bring into your life, what would you like to ‘grow’ in your life, what you would like to accept into your life
 
  • When you finish writing, complete the document with ‘AND IT IS SO’ and sign it with the days date and your signature
 
  • Take a moment to hold to your heart for the clearest intention. You can then either burn it, watching the smoke rise to the universe taking your intentions with it, or sometimes I like to bury it in the garden to allow it to ‘grow’.

 

Have a blessed New Moon, everyone, howl and enjoy. Don’t be afraid of the dark side, it is always there as an ally and friend to make us grow. www.sensualtantrichealing.com

It’s a Guy Thing:: By David Deida

10593028_10152328745556851_6910828918493703323_nDavid Deida continues to be one of my favorite authors about male/female relationships and sex. And I could also word it this way:: David Deida continues to be one of my favorite authors about the divine masculine and feminine energies and about making Love. He basically emcompasses both. I could also say David Deida continues to be one of my favorite authors about Chics and Dudes and about getting it on. The reason I write it in these few different ways is because he is the one author that I have found able to change up his language in a few styles in order to talk about his subject from an honest perspective and a very wise perspective, I might add. This always shows me how important it is to use language to break down the ways we think about things, so that we look deeper and see ourselves clearer.

I began reading It’s a Guy Thing at a friend’s house and 3 sentences in, I just clicked on the laptop and ordered it from amazon…. it was so good.

Under the subject “Why do Men Balk at Commitment? He writes :

Men tend to argue for the possibility of love with real commitment. In response to men’s ideas about possible relationships, women often feel,, “I’m real. Don’t give me your theoretical bullshit. You’re either loving me right now or you’re not”. She wants concrete love. “Dont give me any of your heady philosophy. I’m not feeling your love right now. You’re not incarnating love right now”. She tests whether her man is really loving, or just thinking of love. “I am here. I am real. Love me”. She is here to love.

The man says, “I know you really want my attention, but can you feel love whether I am here or not? Can you be free and happy whether anything is here or not?” this is the masculine teaching of love.

The more full the masculine and feminine teachings of love are, the more close they come to being the same. At the meeting point, there is no difference between the masculine and the feminine. There is no difference between freedom and love. Since true love is all-encompassing, resisting nothing, it is totally free. And, since real freedom is fearless, with no sense of threatened self, it is completely loving. Freedom and love, masculine and feminine, are not different in their full fruition.

Yet there tends to be a concrete difference at the human level. The masculine is more able to stand outside of things and point out, “You are in a mood right now. This is just a mood. Remember love. In this moment, there is nothing preventing you. You don’t need this and that. You don’t need anything. Just remember love right now.” This is the masculine gift.

The feminine gift is like the sound of a ringing bell, a reminder of love in life. “Hey you! You are distracted in your theories and projects and TV> This is where love is expressed, with me. Right here. I m here to be loved. I m here loving you. The feminine calls the masculine into the beauty of life and the embrace of love.

We need both these gifts. Without the full masculine and feminine, we become weakened. One feminine weakness is to feel, “Unless I’m married, unless I’m in a long term intimate relationship, I can’t really experience love”. One masculine weakness is to think, “Well, if we get married I can’t be free. I don’t want to limit my life. I don’t want to be trapped.”

When we are balanced with ourselves and in our relationships, we are free to give our love without fearing dependency, loss of self or confinement. We are free and we are loving. If our relationship ends tomorrow, fine–today we give each other love. If our relationship lasts a lifetime, fine- today we give each other love.

 

This is one of the best explanations I have ever read. Instead of bashing men because they are committment phobes (I speak in a cliche, I realize they are not all committment phobes and that women can also exhibit this behavior) he points out how the impulse to shirk from that is coming from a wise understanding of love. When we can really communicate about these things with each other and understand the beauty of both sides of this committment debate, our relationships can be filled with more respect and more joy and way more trust:) I know from personal experience when you keep blaming men for your frustrations, instead of understanding better your own womanly nature and the beauty of the man nature, then life can be a struggle. Male hating for female hating really drag you down…..and are not true! Good men exist and so do good women!

If you would like to order this book feel free to click here to order of amazon…..save your dating life!

Many blessings on your dating path and feel free to see my website as well…

www.sensualtantrichealing.com

5 Elements :: 5 Senses

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I had the pleasure of studying with Devi Ward, a tantra educator who shares the lineage of Tibetan 5 element Tantra. She was doing alot of great work, integrating the 5 elements with the 5 senses, and working with powerful meditations using chakras, elements, colors and sounds. Each meditation deals with a different element to super charge your system, clean out your energy field and get you more connected to your sensual/sexual energy for greater health, and energy.

This is what I love about Tantra is the creativity of each way of sharing these arts. I love the use of color, sound and chakras to open up the body.Its like learning magic keys, which I find very exciting….

Just to give you a taste::

THE SACRED 5 ELEMENTS TANTRA SENSUAL EXPERIENCE:

Earth–Taste-Rich succulent flavors and sweet treats, such as, wine and chocolate,cut and peeled fruits, cheese, etc.

Water-Touch–Soft fabrics, pillows, silky lingerie, massage oils (organic high quality), feathers, textured fabrics to rub on your bodies.

Fire– Sight– Candles, low-dim sensuous lighting. clean and tidy environment. Beauty and ambiance.

Air-Smell — oil diffusers, incense, scented,  scented oils.

Space — bells, chimes, sounding bowls, nature sounds, the sound of the voice.

By adding these elements to your room or temple, you can begin to bring in the qualities of each element.  For earth you can have not only succulent treats, but a potted plant. For Fire you can have not only candles but some art work as well. For Air, you can do fresh air thru a humidifier, as well as essential oils and incense. For Space of course, music and also a sound machine to block out any noise from neighbors or strange house creaks as well get creative with your own voice quality…..For water….well, you can always get a nice water fountain. As well as have all the nice feelings of touch. Get creative!

To visit more about Devi Ward , visit:  www.deviward.com and to read more about my work go to www.sensualtantrichealing.com

Blessings and Joy on your sensual tantric healing paths…… Feel free to make comments or ask questions.

 

 

Relearning Touch :: How to Heal After Past Sexual Trauma

296233_251405934905342_93453528_nA large part of my work is helping people who have experienced sexual abuse. This is a very intense thing to have gone thru and not something that you can really rush thru. Sometimes, it manifests as a sexual issue and then upon addressing the sexual issue the abuse comes up to the surface. Over and over, what I have come to experience in my practice is that sexual abuse is something that is not often talked about and very often swept under the carpet. It never ceases to amaze me how often I hear of sexual abuse, and the person tells me they have never seen a therapist for it. If you have had sexual abuse, there are trained people, who are very knowledgable about this subject. Seek them out. It is much more common than you would guess and going for your healing, is an empowering and liberating choice for your life on all levels.

I am not a trained therapist in these issues, but I have trained in various sexual healing techniques, particularly thru tantra. I am now reading a very wonderful book about sexual abuse and am constantly getting further education about it. One of the essential things I have found, is that a person needs to re learn how to be in their body and feel safe. One of the books I am reading;; “The Sexual Healing Journey” by Wendy Maltz talks about re-learning touch and how important it is to re-introduce yourself to touch. Not just sexual touch…just plain touch.

She writes::

” If survivors had no choice about who touched them sexually, or when or how or where, they may automatically assume that all touch leads to sex. Survivors may avoid touch that is sensuous and intimate but outside the sexual context: a friend’s hug, a coworker’s handshake, a nurse’s massage. A woman who had been abused by her mother, father, and brother described the dilemma: ” ‘I grew up without nurturing touch and with lots of inappropriate sexual touching. Now I am confused about touch. I’m afraid to trust someone to touch me and unsure that my touch will be received with pleasure if I touch someone else.'”

Survivors can’t erase the past. They were sexually abused and may never had a chance to learn to enjoy being touched. But it’s not too late to begin learning to enjoy touch now. It is possible to build a new mental file, a place to tuck away fresh, enjoyable memories, about touch, like saving snapshots from a wonderful trip. By creating new experiences, survivors can take off in directions they never dreamed they could travel…..

To enhance sexual healing, survivors can now go back and rebuild a healthy continuum of touch experiences. The key to remember is that sexual pleasuring comes after-and not until-you have learned to feel safe and comfortable with nonsexual touch…..

Survivors need to feel well-practiced in their ability to relax, stay present, and guide the touch activity before they can enjoy the unique pleasures inherent in sexual touch.

 

She goes on to describe some very good touch exercises, that are simple and playful, non-sexual. If you would like to read more form her book….click below and order thru amazon, it is one of the most complete and thorough books I have ever read….

 

Blessings on your path and way. May you have the courage to heal and transmute all that is unfinished inside of you.

www.sensualtantrichealing.com