Ecstasy IS Necessary:: Clips from Barbra Carrellas New Book

8005_287904214692503_1946658236_nWhat a wonderful world it is when you come to a house of a friend and she ends up having fabulous books that you had on your book list. I am back on the horse so to speak with this blog….Thanks to ALL who are reading it and my apologies as I drop off the face of the earth at times. I simply need to unplug and dive into deep inner processes within myself and beyond myself to balance my system…

But now I am “above” ground and ready to contribute sensual, tantric, healing posts that inspire, enliven, educate, and hopefully add some spice and energy to your worlds. And as always I hope to bring you into a deeper inquiry investigating the nature of “reality” and what it is that TRULY feeds your soul. And how sensuality and sex are so profoundly interwoven into all of this, regardless if your having it or not.

I’m reading Ecstasy is Necessary by Barbra Carrellas and she invites us (the readers) to get in touch with our Authentic Sexual Self. So that we can really discover how we operate in terms of relationship, sexual style, and erotic appetite. Most of what we have learned is pretty cookie cutter as if sex was a one size fits all experience. We are also so bombarded by guilt and shame in this country around anything related to pleasure, and I don’t just mean sexual pleasure, I mean any kind of sensual pleasure-relaxing, getting a massage, enjoying a good meal, taking a walk for no reason. Especially here in NYC where so many of us are in work overdrive, to stay competitive, on our edge and keeping up. I was astounded by the answers she received when she began to ask people “Why do you do sex?””What does it give you?” “Whats the delight?” and “Whats the big pay off?” She says “the truth is we don’t all do sex for the same reasons”.

Here are the some of the answers she came up with:: (There were many more but I chose the ones that really stood out for me)

-To Connect /communicate with another person.

-To turn my brain off.

-To lighten up.

-To feel Wanted and Needed.

-To explore different sides of my personality.

-To Open My Heart

-To experience Altered States

-It Makes Me Feel Grounded

-Its the most authentic time I have with myself

-It’s one of the only ways I enjoy being present in my body.

Doesn’t this open up so much more your view of the human being? So often I feel like subtly we look at sexual appetite as some lecherous, needy experience, so conditioned we are to see men as dogs and women as whores. Of course our view is not so extreme but in the sub-conscious if we are really honest with our judgement I am sure we can find those extreme belief systems inside of us. I credit this mostly to religion and the media. But when we strip away our superficial conscious mind and begin to question what really motivates us to seek sex, its amazing what we might find. Uncovering our authentic needs and desires, helps us to get CLEAR, about what we are really seeking, have more compassion for ourselves and our partners. It also helps us to see that the people we are in partnership with may have a totally different reason why they enjoy sex and by understanding what really makes them tick, we can create more nourishing sexual exchanges.

She writes” The longer I talked to people about the true value sex had in their lives, the more I could see a through line. The majority of people reported that they liked sex because of some form of connection. What differed was what they preferred to be in connection with. Some people wanted to be in connection with another person. Others wanted connection with God/Goddess/All That Is. Some wanted connection with an aspect of themselves, while others wanted a feeling of purpose, or aliveness, or love, or inner peace. I personally subscribe to the theory that all human desire for connection is a desire for connection with the divine, for connection with God/Goddess/Universe/All That Is. Sex and sexual energy allow us a direct physical experience of the divine within ourselves and with others–a direct connection to the center of everything.”

I love her. Thank you Barbra. She speaks to my soul about this path of Sensual Tantric Healing….to embrace this incredible energy of our sexuality as being divine, and NECESSARY for us to heal as whole human beings.

If you want to Read more of Ecstasy is Necessary click here to order her book thru amazon…

And check out my site as I begin to add some new offerings, pictures and more….Blessings as always on your healing path, may love guide your way home.

2nd Chakra Series-21 Ways to Care for Your Sacral Chakra from Mommy Mystic Blog

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This is a great Post! Re posted from Mommy Mystic…. Check out her blog at 2nd Chakra Series – 21 Ways to Care for Your Sacral Chakra   Please note that I am currently offering two teleseminar series related to healing and empowering the sacral chakra (as well as other chakras) – Energy Healing for […]

The Art of Sensual Tantric Healing and What I LOVE About The Journey

What is Sensual Tantric Healing? I just hung up with a perspective client who was very concerned he was going to get “aroused” during the session and that, that was going to make me uncomfortable. I assured him that arousal was the name of the game, that, this was not going to make me uncomfortable and that I was there to hold space for him if he did feel that.  “Here is the thing”, I said. “We aren’t here to get you aroused, nor are we here to deny your arousal. Sensual Tantric Healing is about coming home to the body, finding that elegant place inside the skin where having a body becomes a gift to the soul’s expression. Sensual Tantric Healing is not about having an agenda or an expectation that one thing or another is going to happen in some way. Sensual Tantric Healing is about letting all of those things go so that one can fully surrender to the moment and allow what needs to happen in the moment blossom fully.  This is what creates expanded sensation for the body. When we relax into sensation with the power of the breath, a great magic happens. A transcendence. This is what I am interested in creating with people. TRANSCENDENCE. A taste of the miraculous in between the thoughts, beyond the body and yet within the body, through the soul on the wings of the spirit.

When you enter into a sensual experience with presence and awareness you create a vast container for the divine to enter and carry you. If you enter with expectation or with a goal in mind, the divine cannot surprise you as it wishes.  The expectation or the goal creates a superimposed mind trip onto the moment and fragments something that organically wants to expand as a whole. In Sensual Tantric Healing, your intention is to by pass the mind, to set the spirit free, to allow the soul to creatively and instinctually express itself.  Now what does all this spiritual jargon really mean? It sounds nice, the words are poetic enough, but what am I really saying?

I am saying we as a human NYC species are not fully breathing into our bodies, nor are we truly feeling them for the intelligient instruments that they are. The body is a map of the soul and by opening the body we open the soul, plain and simple. How do I know this? Because I have experienced it in many facets. Tantra, Dance, Yoga, Massage, Body Cleanses. All these things have one intention. To bring wholeness and awareness to the body so that we as soulspirits can imagine ourselves awake and participating in this great creation. Our sensuality is our ability to feel our senses. Our sensuality is not necessarily about sexuality, sex or intercourse. It IS about feeling thru the very advanced realms of the 5 senses. Most of us bumble about our day and have grown numb to the true power of our senses. City life with its blaring sounds and constant sensoral overload only serves to create a disconnection from these precious allies. Taste, touch, smell, sight and hearing. When we slow down and take the time to bring our awareness to feeling each and every one, to delighting in each and every one a whole universe of experience opens up. That experience is what I call the divine, God, Goddess, Spirit, Creator, whatever title you want to give it, it is the thing that makes the flowers grow and the sun rise. The thing that calls out the most beauty in us and inspires us in the deepest parts of our heart. We all know those moments when we taste the miraculous, thru music, sports, making love, laughing, children, a work of art, whatever it is that moves us to feel profound gratitude that we are alive and living.

This is the intention of Sensual Tantric Healing, to create that connection with the transcendent with the flow and grace of the soul. So that when you return to your daily life, you take with you a piece of the purity, a touch of the heart magic, a remembrance of greatness, that you can access whenever you need to.  So that you begin to chew your food more slowly, enjoy taking a shower more thoroughly, laugh more deeply, find the sun on your face more orgasmically, really LISTEN to music and find yourself with tears in your eyes at the touching moment in the movie. This is what Sensual Tantric Healing was created for. To enliven life with the full force of your being unleashed, available, unscripted and totally whole.  And our sensuality and our sexuality is a part of that wholeness, and reclaiming it, is essential to us finding again, the magic of living truly and authentically as awake human beings.

This Blog is dedicated to that awakening and remembrance…..journey on into the world of Sensual Tantric Healing.. with blessings.

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